Monday, November 22, 2010

Judgy McJudgy Pants

I haven't completely jumped back into the online dating pool yet since I'm not sure where I'll be living in a couple months. But I have done some general searching around on just to see what was out there.

Online dating is a weird thing. Well, I guess dating is a weird thing to begin with, but then you add the whole online component and it gets even weirder. The whole aspect of looking at profiles and yes, pictures (come on, lets just be real here) to "decide" whether you are interested in someone...

Anyways, it was interesting to look through a bunch of profiles. And yes, I was totally Judgy McJudgypants. But not in the way you may think. I think I'm less into physical appearances than I was perhaps 5 years ago. In all honesty, I'm probably going to be less trusting of a good looking guy anymore.

So on Match you can see someone's profile where they talk about certain key characteristics about themselves, but then they also designate what they are looking for. Ok so on to good part, the judging!

First, there are the guys who are my age, meaning early to mid 30s. But if you are a 35 year old man and you say that the age range of women that you are willing to date is 18 to 34, hell yeah I'm going to judge you. Eighteen? EIGHTEEN?!?!? Are you f'in kidding me? Next.

Next, Match has the option to say what your salary is, as well as the salary ranges of your dates you are looking for. First of all, yes I'm going to judge you a bit if you list what your salary is. I don't know, it just seems tacky and like you're using that as some measure of your date-ability.

But worse for me were the guys who said that they make $100-$125k, but when it came to the women they were looking for, they specifically listed the salary ranges that were less than theirs. So for example, they were looking for women who make $50-$75k, or $75-$100k.

Let me get this straight. Not only do you not want to date women who make more money than you, but you don't want to date women who are in the SAME salary bracket as yours? YOU have to be the one making more? Give me a f'in break. WTF!!!

I wonder if I need to try to be less judgy and more trusting to make this work...

1 comment:

  1. I don't see anything wrong with forming an opinion of somebody based on what kind of a first impression they are actively trying to make. Any guy that opens with "I am looking for someone with a lower socio-economic status whom I can legally have sex with" is an immature loser. It's okay to say that. And it's okay to stay the hell away from them.